Often parents ask… but what am I supposed to DO in the moment? How am I supposed to deal with the big feelings when they are happenning? What can I do so they won’t happen as much? The thing is, in order to manage Big Feelings, we have to get ahead of them. In other posts we can address what to do in the moment (hint: fewer words, all the calm, when it’s over prime forward) but first, let’s get ahead of the big feelings. Presence is your strongest, best, most powerful tool. 

As you begin to practice your Special Five, notice how your relationship shifts- or if it shifts! Consider trying the Special Five with each child, and with your children as a group- what works well for you? Download the Special Five PDF, and make sure to watch the other Big Feelings video on Effective Praise!